Pursuit, Part II: Whether and when to chase after Ms. Could Be Right

Wise Readers, is it time to give up? Or pursue with all you are? How does pursuit help men—not just women—know whether this is the right relationship? Here, some anguished men, and my attempts at answers. Any other suggestions? You know what to do: Read on!

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The Art Of Pursuit: How and why to chase Ms. Could Be Right

Dear Duana, Lanie and I had been out a few times when I saw her out with another guy….I have never felt this way about anyone before. If she’s at all interested, I want to make this work, but I can’t tell how she feels, and I don’t want to be a stalker. I’m confused and need your direction badly. Dear Kip, Sometimes, it seems like the difference between a stalker and a boyfriend is whether the woman wants the attention. You want to respect Lanie’s wishes; but is she giving you the go ahead, or the go away?

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WHEN LOVE STINKS: Smell, The Pill, Marriage, and Online Dating

“I recently got off The Pill, and suddenly cannot tolerate the way my husband smells.” “I fell in love with someone online, and then when we met in person, he (not his cologne—he) smelled wrong.” Yes, scent is a deal-maker or deal-breaker for many women. So much so, “He just smells wrong” is a common marital therapy complaint from women, and smell trumps *all* other senses—including sight, sound and touch— in women’s decision to have sex with a particular guy. What’s wrong with these women—and maybe, you? As it happens, nothing…

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Q&A from "The How To Say No Primer"

Wise Readers, Should sixth-graders even be allowed to attend dances? Won’t it lead to…sex? What are the risk factors for early sex, anyway—and what can you do to prevent that at your house? Does the community have to go along, or can you go it alone? Read on!

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The How To Say No Primer (how to say no to a boy who asks you to the dance)

Mom! You know that boy who waves to me all the time and talks to me at my locker? He asked me to the dance today, and the dance is still two weeks off! I said yes! But I think I want to go with friends to the next one. How would I say no?

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