Q&A from "I Can't Make You Love Me...Or Can I?"

Wise Readers, Is love a choice~but only for women? Why are 100% of the ‘how can I make [name] love me’ letters from women? Should you marry someone who loves you more than you love them? And how can men simultaneously love longest…but get re-involved quickest? Read on!

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How To Get Rid Of A Rival: Survey says...

Dear Duana, Dave and I’ve been dating half a year. A couple months ago, he and ex-girlfriend Megan renewed their friendship. I’ve asked to go along on their outings (they still go to movies, concerts, out to eat, hang out at one another’s apartments)—but he said no because “it would hurt Megan to see us together.”….how much contact is appropriate between my boyfriend and his ex-girlfriend, who appears to still harbor feelings for him while he claims they are ‘very good friends’? And what is my best bet for minimizing the threat she poses to our relationship?

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Junk Words: What the, above, he, and I say about your lovelife

Wise Readers, today’s interview is with James W. Pennebaker, the scientist who’s spent decades studying how the ‘junk words’—filler words that aren’t nouns or verbs—tell us a great deal about differences between men and women, who’s likely to date whom, and even whether our partner may be lying to us. You know what to do~read on!

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Are You Just A Rebound Relationship? Q&A from "Dating the Not-Quite-Divorced"

Dear Duana, How can you tell if a guy is rebounding? I’m dating a man newly out of a relationship, not a marriage but a serious relationship, and I don’t know how to tell whether I’m a transitional relationship to him. Dear I.J., Certainty isn’t often available, in the lab or in life; science is about odds, but rarely can it specify what will happen in an individual’s scenario. BUT. Here are four ways you can get yourself closer to The Answer:

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Dating The Not-Quite-Divorced

Dear Duana,I’ve gotten involved with three women I met online in the last year, only to find they were all still married. I had asked each of them whether their divorce was final before meeting in person, and they all said yes! Do I need to see finalized legal papers before I can meet someone for coffee? Dan Dear Duana,I’m a single mom, and I’ve been set up with another single parent who is ‘not quite divorced’. Do you think he’s on the rebound? Should I suggest he contact me when the divorce is final? Should I have one coffee date and see what I think? Cindy

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