Staying Together For The Kids? When casual sex might trump true love

Dear Duana, Stuart and I parent well together…and that’s it. Our kids, adopted from abusive backgrounds, are doing well, but I’d like to find a way to conquer my loneliness while maintaining their stable homelife. Would an open relationship work, where we each pursue real love elsewhere but stay together for the kids? Dear Jeffrey, many might say you’ve hit on the perfect compromise~but I wish you’d just asked if casual sex would work out okay. Here’s why…

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Q&A from "Conquering Confusion: He loves her? He loves her not."

Wise Readers, Why, oh why, would a man introduce a woman to his parents—without meaning Commitment by it? If that’s not a good sign of Commitment, what is? If Commitmentphobes don’t want commitment, why don’t they just say so? And why does Time move so differently for men and women? Read on!

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Conquering Confusion: He loves her? He loves her not.

Dear Duana, I’ve been dating Cal for half a year, during which he’s introduced me to his parents and taken me on weekends with his friends. He hasn’t called me his girlfriend, hasn’t said he loves me and hasn’t asked to be exclusive, but his friends said Cal talks about me more than anyone else he’s dated. We have great sex, but there’s never a mention of the future. I can’t stand the confusion anymore…. Dear Julie, There’s a gold standard for confusion, and it’s this: inconsistent words and actions. Be warned: Confusion is your cue to open your eyes and find out what’s going on, because *something* is wrong. But what? Here’s how to tell whether he Loves You…or Loves You Not…

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Q&A from "How To Find Normal Men"

Wise Readers, Are rebound relationships the rule—or the exception? Does former pain open us to love—or close us to it? And what are the best ways to meet men (normal or not)? Read on!

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How To Find Normal Men (or at least avoid the Weird ones)

Dear Duana,I’m mid-60s and widowed, and I keep meeting bizarre men no matter where I look…where are the normal, available and willing men? Dear Judy, it’s important to cast a wide (Inter)net, as you’ve done, but it’s not enough to ward off Weirdness. Time, then, for some alternatives to the Alternatives you’ve found… (And young ‘uns, keep reading…there’s info for you here, too.)

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