Gay Or Straight, What’s The Difference?

I’ve been happily partnered with Michael for the past 17 years. Straights who know us are surprised by how long we’ve been together, or they want to know the secrets to our success. Are there really differences between gay and straight long-term relationships? Dear Steven, Congratulations! You found a good man before I did. Even better, you’ve kept your relationship alive and thriving for many years. What have you and Michael got going on—and what can *everyone* learn from it?

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How To Forgive An Affair (He Won't Admit)

Following my recent tip-off about Henry’s two-year infidelity with a colleague, he ceased contact with Anne, joined me in therapy, and apologized for endangering our marriage. But he won’t admit he had an affair, or tell me anything about it! He insists Anne was “just a good friend” he never mentioned because he didn’t want me upset. Well, I’m beyond upset. Why is the truth so hard for him to tell? And (how) can I forgive him—for my sanity and our unity and our family?

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What To Do When She's Not (Ever) In The Mood

Dear Emma,When you asked how to locate your libido, the scientific answer quickly emerged: There’s no widely/wildly successful solution. And among our Wise Reader survey respondents, 27% of the men and 81% of the women struggle(d) with their own low lust. Turns out, research indicates that reviving the drive is about as straightforward as female sexuality itself. But despair not. The many possible *causes* of absent or low desire mean many possible *cures*—including these:

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Q&A for "The Guy's Guide To Giving Great Gifts"

Wise Readers, Last week’s column about gift-giving really hit a nerve on Ye Olde Provider/Protector turf. What if you’re a guy who hates the calendar telling you when to buy? If you received a Bad Gift, why *isn’t* it a good strategy to just focus on the positives? Under what circumstances *don’t* women care so much about Gifts? When men give grudgingly, are they truly showing a lack of willingness that can add up to neglect in a marriage? And are some women just impossible to please? Read on!

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Young Love--Young Marriage?

Dear Duana, Audrey and I share love, commitment, values, goals, interests, and ambitions—and Youth. I’m 18 and she’s 17. We know we need our parents’ approval. What do we say?

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