Doing Divorce Differently With Science

Wise Readers,

Whether you’re happily partnered, considering divorce, or in the thick of a custody battle—this NEW podcast episode I did with attorney-mediator Lesa Koskey is must-hear. In it you’ll get the factual answers to your questions—questions like:

*What are the three situations where divorce not only makes sense—it’s the better choice?

*How many people remarry the person they divorced?

*If forgiveness is so good for us, why do we resist doing it?

*How can you keep your kids out of the middle of your dealings with your ex? What if the ex is the one trash-talking you to your children?

 Here’s the link:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/6kKVnuuFMj8WjCNWAq75Yn?si=HyIvpNpVR3y6G9DVK038XA

And it’s all science-based, of course!

Why Forgiving Isn't Forgetting

 Wise readers: 

Why is forgiving so hard? Probably because of myths about what forgiveness is.

Forgiveness isn’t:

*forgetting

*saying (or thinking) “it’s no big deal”

*living without boundaries, remaining vulnerable, or letting them do it again

*telling them that you forgave them.

It is reclaiming your peace by letting go of anger—while setting whatever boundaries you need to to be safe.

And of all the topics I taught across 20 years, this one brought the most letters saying it improved people’s lives.

Here’s a how-to—science-approved, of course!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7w4RQ_sIvEg&list=PLsYb1Meui4ky53PMzbB-68wOT2GS_BtO5&index=5

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Forgiveness and Divorce and You, Oh My

Got forgiveness? It’s not a sexy topic. But it’s deeply necessary, healing…and as it turns out, scientific. Here’s my NEW podcast on Jason LaVoy’s divorce show:

http://jasonlevoy.com/057-love-divorce-forgiveness-why-it-matters/

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