Why Forgiving Isn't Forgetting

 Wise readers: 

Why is forgiving so hard? Probably because of myths about what forgiveness is.

Forgiveness isn’t:

*forgetting

*saying (or thinking) “it’s no big deal”

*living without boundaries, remaining vulnerable, or letting them do it again

*telling them that you forgave them.

It is reclaiming your peace by letting go of anger—while setting whatever boundaries you need to to be safe.

And of all the topics I taught across 20 years, this one brought the most letters saying it improved people’s lives.

Here’s a how-to—science-approved, of course!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7w4RQ_sIvEg&list=PLsYb1Meui4ky53PMzbB-68wOT2GS_BtO5&index=5

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How To Fight So Your Relationship Wins

Wise Readers,

Is there a ‘right’ way to argue? What’s the magic ratio of positive interactions to negative, to avoid going flat-broke at the Bank of Love? How can you use inevitable conflicts to bring the two of you closer? And why are the happiest couples the most (not least) likely to bring up what bugs them?

Find this and more in this recent webinar!

#datingadvice #relationshipgoals #RelationshipAdvice #conflictresolution #LoveFactually #duanawelch #southwesternuniversity

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1481DfghAELfRUTn587IRsPlDf778nFkj/view

Grieving A Loss: Free Webinar Comes to You Tomorrow

Part 4 in my Webinar Series Peace in Relationships is free for you—tomorrow. Loss is a human universal, yet many of us get told we’re grieving the wrong way. Is there a right way, though? In this webinar, you’ll get the tools to process the hard emotions and realities you’re going through, and learn how to communicate with yourself, others in grief, and even those who have hurt you, so you move through your loss cleanly, without compounding the pain.

Register at

http://bit.ly/peacepart4

***Time is set for Central Standard zone***

Dr. Duana Welch is the author of the Love Factually books, known for using social science to solve real-life relationship issues. She taught psychology across 20 years at the University of Florida; Cal State Fullerton; St. Edwards University; Southwestern University; and Austin Community College. Her teaching garnered awards at Cal State (Professor of the Year, 2000 and 2001) and ACC (NISOD and Outstanding Service Award, both 2012). She has contributed to NPR, PBS, Psychology Today, and numerous other outlets, podcasts, and videos. Her books are now out globally in five languages; all rely on science rather than opinion to help men and women of any age, sexual, or gender orientation find and keep the right partner.

Avoiding Abuse Webinar is here--free--now!

If you missed my webinar on Avoiding #Abuse last week, here’s the link:

Peace in Relationships: Avoiding Abusers with Dr. Duana Welch. https://youtu.be/B79tgOx8Zzw.

Love shouldn’t hurt.

#LoveFactually

Free webinar on avoiding abuse coming January 28 2021

Hey y’all, I’ve got a free webinar tomorrow at 10 a.m. PST/noon Central. If you’re concerned about you or someone else who might be in danger of abuse, or maybe you want to know more about it so you can protect your own children someday, I encourage you to sign up. See you there!

Avoiding Abusers webinar

January 28, 2021

FREE & OPEN TO ALL:

Register Today at http://bit.ly/peacepart3

Peace In Relationships webinar series: Avoiding abusers: Coping with relationship pain during Covid and beyond

Healthy relationships require effective ways to deal with conflict. During tough times like the pandemic, our coping tools can get strained, and we might engage in hurtful patterns of interacting. How do we understand ourselves and others, and make decisions that avoid needless heartache? In the third session in this four-part webinar series, Love Factually author Dr. Duana Welch will present a science-based perspective on avoiding abusers:

What is abuse? Science shows it’s probably not what you thought it was—and early detection is key. In this webinar, you’ll learn the early warning signs and red flags before you spend years or decades in an abusive relationship—and what to do if you or someone you love is already there.

About Duana Welch

Dr. Duana Welch (pronounced DWAY-nah) is author of the Love Factually books, known for using social science to solve real-life relationship issues. She taught psychology across 20 years at the University of Florida; Cal State Fullerton; St. Edwards University; Southwestern University; and Austin Community College. Her teaching garnered awards at Cal State (Professor of the Year, 2000 and 2001) and ACC (NISOD and Outstanding Service Award, both 2012). She has contributed to NPR, PBS, Psychology Today, and numerous other outlets, podcasts, and videos. Her books are now out globally in five languages; all rely on science rather than opinion to help men and women of any age, sexual, or gender orientation find and keep the right partner. Her client practice is global, via Zoom and other technologies.