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Why is affair betrayal a Much Bigger Deal to most of us than other betrayals? Don’t cheaters cheat again? What happens when parents tell kids about their affair(s)? And why doesn’t forgiving mean forgetting? Read on!
My husband admits he endangered our marriage, but insists he never had an affair—his two-year secret sweetie was “just a good friend”! Why is the truth so hard for him to tell? And (how) can I forgive him—for my sanity and our unity and our family? Dear Katherine, People don’t jeopardize their life’s foundation for “just a good friend”…yet forgiveness is *the norm* even among the betrayed spouses of sex addicts…
Share Article Print Article Permalink tagged Affair Prevention, Affair Recovery, Affairs, Conflict Resolution, Divorce, Forgiveness, Male Female Differences, Marriage, Relationship Building Wise Readers, Our recent column about men who love mom (too) much inspired many fascinating queries. Why can women get away with being Momma’s (or Daddy’s) *Girls*? Why might gay men get away with being uber-close to Mom? What if you found out you’re insecurely attached—can anything be done? And what if *you’re* the monster-in-law? Read on!
Dear Duana, What do you know about the man who tells Mom everything, and then takes Mom’s contrary advice at the expense of his wife’s input on all of it—money, career, parenting? How does he wean himself from her approval? And what happens if he doesn’t? Dear Sarah,Ever notice the clinging, hand-holding, full-frontal-hugging, endless-kissing, crying-at-partings indicative of…a one-year-old and his mother? Our first passionate relationship is usually with Mom and/or Dad. And if it goes well, it forms the roadmap to Happily Ever After with our eventual mate. Still, there’s a biiiig difference between being Momma’s Boy and Momma’s Man…
Share Article Print Article Permalink tagged Attachment Style, Conflict Resolution, Divorce, Evolutionary Psychology, Male Female Differences, Marriage, Parenting Wise Philosophers, Per our home-making man, most of you rose to Albert’s defense as doing a valuable, perhaps the most valuable, job by raising successful, happy kids. Then, things took a philosophical turn: How do stay-at-home roles work when there are two moms—or two dads? What’s the role of science in values—and values in science? Of our laws on our values? Should homemaking be an at-your-own-risk endeavor? Are humans evolving to become “tamer”? And does wanting the traditional path make you “less evolved”? Read on…