How To Get Rid Of A Rival: Survey says...

Dear Duana, Dave and I’ve been dating half a year. A couple months ago, he and ex-girlfriend Megan renewed their friendship. I’ve asked to go along on their outings (they still go to movies, concerts, out to eat, hang out at one another’s apartments)—but he said no because “it would hurt Megan to see us together.”….how much contact is appropriate between my boyfriend and his ex-girlfriend, who appears to still harbor feelings for him while he claims they are ‘very good friends’? And what is my best bet for minimizing the threat she poses to our relationship?

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How To Forgive An Affair (He Won't Admit)

Following my recent tip-off about Henry’s two-year infidelity with a colleague, he ceased contact with Anne, joined me in therapy, and apologized for endangering our marriage. But he won’t admit he had an affair, or tell me anything about it! He insists Anne was “just a good friend” he never mentioned because he didn’t want me upset. Well, I’m beyond upset. Why is the truth so hard for him to tell? And (how) can I forgive him—for my sanity and our unity and our family?

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Masturbation + Marriage = ?

My fiancé and I haven’t had sex with each other, but I *masturbate every day. I’ve always felt guilt about it, and now I’m worried it will ruin my ability to please my future wife. How do I stop? Dear Albert, I’m touched by your concern for your future wife’s sexual happiness, and honored you’d let me lend a hand as you prepare for your nuptials. But perhaps instead of stopping your own masturbation, you could consider encouraging hers…

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Q&A for “Affair-Proofing Your Marriage: Fidelity 2.0”

Wise Readers, If you want an affair-free union, being (and finding) a good person isn’t enough. But what are the differences between keeping a man versus a woman faithful? Do women have fewer, or more, affairs with age? And how do lifestyle and culture help or hinder affairs? Read on!

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Affair-Proofing Your Marriage: Fidelity 2.0

Dear Duana, I got a tad obsessed with a “Guy” at work—then told my husband and quit interacting with Guy. My girlfriends think telling my spouse was mean, ending the friendship was unnecessary, and that my character and my happy marriage would have prevented anything “happening”. I think they’re naive. How do you affair-proof a marriage?

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