How To Forgive *Yourself* (when you really screwed up/around)

Dear Duana, I’m living with horrible guilt for an affair that ended four years ago. My wife forgave me, but I still feel like scum. Please tell me how to forgive myself. And please don’t hate me. Dear Ryan,I don’t hate you—not at all. But I wonder if you do, and whether we should both hate guilt. How do you cast that burden aside and move forward with a clean heart?

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How To Forgive An Affair (He Won't Admit)

Following my recent tip-off about Henry’s two-year infidelity with a colleague, he ceased contact with Anne, joined me in therapy, and apologized for endangering our marriage. But he won’t admit he had an affair, or tell me anything about it! He insists Anne was “just a good friend” he never mentioned because he didn’t want me upset. Well, I’m beyond upset. Why is the truth so hard for him to tell? And (how) can I forgive him—for my sanity and our unity and our family?

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Getting Over Her: How to heal a broken heart

Dear Samuel, Your palpable grief and your question—how do you heal a broken heart?—are timeless and nearly universal. Heartbreak is the price Love ultimately requires of us, because all relationships end. Yet even among the 90% of our Love Science respondents who’d endured that grief, nearly all had recovered and Moved On. You can, too. How?

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Folk Wisdom: How Do You Heal A Broken Heart?

Wise Readers: How do you heal a broken heart? And how would you advise someone else to go about it? This week, you’re the Sage. Read on…and answer the brief survey.

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Q&A from “How To Forgive An Affair (He Won’t Admit)”

Why is affair betrayal a Much Bigger Deal to most of us than other betrayals? Don’t cheaters cheat again? What happens when parents tell kids about their affair(s)? And why doesn’t forgiving mean forgetting? Read on!

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