Exercise: This is a pubic service announcement

Wise Readers, Swimsuits—they’re not what we’re discussing today. Nor are we broaching penis size, much as I enjoy saying ‘penis size’ and even though it’s the topic men ask me about the most. Instead, we’re discussing something vital to swimsuits and penises—and vaginas— everywhere…

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Q&A from “Vibrator Dependence"

Wise Readers: Men chimed in from last week’s vibe column: Is there a certain-size vibrator that can make up for a small penis? Is there a wattage that will desensitize the clitoris and/or create vibrator dependence? What about a frequency of vibrator use? Do older women make better lovers—or at least tell their partners more about what turns them on? Read on!

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Vibrator Dependence: Can using a vibrator make it harder to orgasm with a real partner?

Dear Duana, I’ve been single for a few months, and my vibrator and I have gotten rather close. I’m starting to worry I won’t know how to respond to a flesh-and-blood guy. Is there such a thing as vibrator dependence? If so, how do I deal with it? Erica Dear Erica, I’ll admit it, when I first read your letter, I thought: How close? Do you call out Oh My Vibrator! at crucial moments? Is one of its designated speeds Who Needs A Man? And most ominous of all: Have you chipped a tooth? Seriously, let’s get a grip on the issue.

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Staying Together For The Kids? When casual sex might trump true love

Dear Duana, Stuart and I parent well together…and that’s it. Our kids, adopted from abusive backgrounds, are doing well, but I’d like to find a way to conquer my loneliness while maintaining their stable homelife. Would an open relationship work, where we each pursue real love elsewhere but stay together for the kids? Dear Jeffrey, many might say you’ve hit on the perfect compromise~but I wish you’d just asked if casual sex would work out okay. Here’s why…

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Gay Or Straight, What’s The Difference?

I’ve been happily partnered with Michael for the past 17 years. Straights who know us are surprised by how long we’ve been together, or they want to know the secrets to our success. Are there really differences between gay and straight long-term relationships? Dear Steven, Congratulations! You found a good man before I did. Even better, you’ve kept your relationship alive and thriving for many years. What have you and Michael got going on—and what can *everyone* learn from it?

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