Kiss-N-Tell? Part 2: What to say and how to say it when you've got a (sexual or other) Secret

Dear Duana, While I am way past having any Secrets 18 years post-wedding, I still have to wonder if there are any guidelines for the telling process. What kind of opening do you look for? By phone, by email, in person? And what if the newly acquired knowledge induces a screaming hairy cat fit in the other person? Dear Greystoke’s Mom, as it happens, the array of acceptable telling options may surprise you…

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Kiss-N-Tell? How to time telling our (Sexual & Other) Secrets to a new partner

Dear Cleo,In your letter, you want to tell your new date about your permanent but non-life-threatening STI*. You’re just leery of the timing. Many of us also have Secrets, parts of our health or history we know we’d need to tell any new partner…someday. But what day? Thanks to our survey respondents and empirical help, here are some guidelines that should stand all of us in good stead:

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Q&A from "Sex & The (Happily) Single Girl"

Friends With Benefits—why does that so often fail in practice—and why don’t honest discussions prevent the train wreck? Can condoms harm emotional attachment in a long-term relationship? Does social science affirm many religions’ sexual teachings—or not? Was virginity ‘til marriage ever the norm? Read on!

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Q&A from “WHEN SIZE MATTERS: Penis size and women’s satisfaction”

Your responses to the Penis Size column resulted in answers to many fascinating questions: If women aren’t so phallus-focused, why are *men* intently measuring themselves? What’s the height/penis-size relationship? What do women report as the most important dimension for their pleasure? Does a woman’s size have anything to do with it? Are there racial differences in size? Can weight loss make your penis bigger? Do vasectomy and/or circumcision make a difference in either sex’s satisfaction? Read on!

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WHEN SIZE MATTERS: Penis size and women's satisfaction

I’ve been in and out of relationships all my life, and I’m worried my penis size might be why things haven’t worked out….At this point, I’m tired of worrying, and just want to know what’s normal and how much size matters, even if the news is bad. Dear John Thomas, sounds like you’re expecting an answer that hits below the belt—and you’ve got company: 46% of self-defined “average-size” men are dissatisfied with their penile dimensions. Fortunately, from every angle, your penile pessimism is larger than it needs to be…

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