Q&A from “Men As Success Objects”, “Women As Sex Objects”

Wise Readers, Are men—not just women—also seeking a walking wallet? Are they really that adamant about youth-seeking? What options might women have for maintaining Youth & Beauty once the youth part is gone? And does planning for a life alone mean that you’ll really be alone? Read on!

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Men as Success Objects: Or, why a man’s job is to have a (good) job

Dear Duana, I’m back with my former boyfriend, but an issue from our break-up remains: He works for his mom and does not seemed inspired to do more. Will this always bother me? Dear Janie, ITE (In This Economy), there are plenty of folks who are un- or under-employed through no fault of their own, despite strident efforts. But there’s no sugar-coating this: Male lack of ambition is a huge, universal and global female turn-off. Why that is so, and whether it has to ruin your relationship with Dave, are separate issues…

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Q&A for "When Love Stinks"

Wise Readers, Refusing or seeking a mate because of smell: It’s normal for women. But readers were left with questions: Do people with specific genetic profiles choose specific kinds of colognes? Why do men fall in love using their eyes—women, their noses? What if someone rich, powerful and good-looking stinks—can women overlook (oversmell?) that? And what role do factors like anti-depressants, age, diet and sexual orientation play in smell and sexual attraction? Read on! Cheers, Duana

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The Fisher Personality Test: Do Opposites Attract?

Wise Readers, In response to your many queries, we’ll soon be addressing whether and when *opposites* might attract…and whether they can remain together happily as a complementary pair where each completes the other—or whether the dishes suffer over-much in a union where there’s more friction than function. Which means it’s time to find out what your personality type is—and whether you are now, or have ever been with, someone whose personality differs substantively from your own…

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Q&A from "SETTLING 101: Traits For A Mate"

Wise Readers, Why is starting with love beginning backwards—and what can making a Traits For A Mate List do for you? What if you know what your Standards are, but you’re having a tough time sticking to them? What (incorrect) cultural messages encourage us to Settle for matches that won’t work? What happened to Readers who stuck by their standards in the past—and those who didn’t? Why do people resist making The List? And how detailed should it be? What about complementary traits—don’t opposites attract, too? Read on! Cheers, Duana

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