Becoming The High Status Woman: Or, how Helen got her status back & her ring on

Dear Duana, I knew better than to sleep with my boyfriend right away, but I did. I promised myself I would never live with another man unless we were married, but Troy and I were talking marriage, so I moved in. Now –four years later!—no ring is in sight. So how do I become that high status woman now? Is it even possible? (One month later…) Dear Helen Of High Status, In four weeks, you achieved with resolve and bravery what four years of devotion did not…

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Q&A from “Phishing With The (Inter) Net: Baiting the hook”

Wise Readers, Curb/curve appeal: Online, could it be advantageous to post pix that look somewhat less hot than The Real You? Why is the Pool deeper at paid-subscription than free dating sites? Why is it okay—desirable, even—for men to post photos of themselves with their kids…but works the opposite for women seeking men? And when and how should children be mentioned? Read on!

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Phishing With The (Inter) Net: Baiting the hook

Dear Duana, At 38, I’ve got a good job, good looks, and lots to offer. But I get nada when I email men via my Match.com membership. How do I create a captivating profile? Dear Justine, Successful fishermen often cast more than one line at a time, but if you must choose just one site, Match.com has best-stocked of the dating Pools for Women Seeking Men. So, if the Phish aren’t biting at all, you’re right—it’s time to examine your bait and hook. And get recognized for the Catch you are. Here’s how…

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Q&A from “eHarmony: Using the Friends & Family plan to find love online”

Wise Readers, If you have to resort to the Internet to find a mate, isn’t that a clue that You’re Not Ready? What are the pitfalls and pleasures of online romance? If you don’t even have time to find a mate, do you have time to…have one? What’s a prefrontal cortex, and why do we need one to find True Love? And what’s up with the studies where arranged marriages are happier than marriages for love? Read on!

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eHarmony: Using the Friends & Family Plan to find love online

Dear Duana, My brother Fred’s alcoholic ex abandoned him and his sons three years ago. Now, he’d like to find The One, but obviously he won’t look in bars, and he lacks time to sort through endless profiles. So I suggested letting me screen women’s profiles online, and then babysitting while he meets the best of the best in person. ??? Dear Betsy, Matchmaking is a growth industry, and using the Friends & Family Plan may be mate shopping’s Safe(er)Way, compared to cultural Do It Yourself norms. Here’s how—where—and why…

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