Q&A for "What To Do When She's Not (Ever) In The Mood"

Wise Readers, Why isn’t it a good idea to have sex just to keep a mate happy—and why does the Attitude matter so much? Isn’t low desire experienced at some point by *everyone*? What’s the difference between “not tonight, Honey,” and true libidinous lack—and when does normal behavior cross the line into a disorder? Could Emma just be asexual? Read on!

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What To Do When She's Not (Ever) In The Mood

Dear Emma,When you asked how to locate your libido, the scientific answer quickly emerged: There’s no widely/wildly successful solution. And among our Wise Reader survey respondents, 27% of the men and 81% of the women struggle(d) with their own low lust. Turns out, research indicates that reviving the drive is about as straightforward as female sexuality itself. But despair not. The many possible *causes* of absent or low desire mean many possible *cures*—including these:

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Q&A for "Save Our Sexlife (DIY sex therapy when your guy has ED he won't treat)"

Wise Readers, Going Stealth to treat a lover’s ED (when he won’t do it himself) spawned many personal revelations and quite the discussion. What are the many —sometime surprising— causes ED? If it’s this common, should we even call it “erectile *disorder*”? And can you screw up recovery by rushing the process? Read on!

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Q&A for "The Guy's Guide To Giving Great Gifts"

Wise Readers, Last week’s column about gift-giving really hit a nerve on Ye Olde Provider/Protector turf. What if you’re a guy who hates the calendar telling you when to buy? If you received a Bad Gift, why *isn’t* it a good strategy to just focus on the positives? Under what circumstances *don’t* women care so much about Gifts? When men give grudgingly, are they truly showing a lack of willingness that can add up to neglect in a marriage? And are some women just impossible to please? Read on!

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Q&A for “Affair-Proofing Your Marriage: Fidelity 2.0”

Wise Readers, If you want an affair-free union, being (and finding) a good person isn’t enough. But what are the differences between keeping a man versus a woman faithful? Do women have fewer, or more, affairs with age? And how do lifestyle and culture help or hinder affairs? Read on!

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