How To Get Rid Of A Rival: Survey says...

Dear Duana, Dave and I’ve been dating half a year. A couple months ago, he and ex-girlfriend Megan renewed their friendship. I’ve asked to go along on their outings (they still go to movies, concerts, out to eat, hang out at one another’s apartments)—but he said no because “it would hurt Megan to see us together.”….how much contact is appropriate between my boyfriend and his ex-girlfriend, who appears to still harbor feelings for him while he claims they are ‘very good friends’? And what is my best bet for minimizing the threat she poses to our relationship?

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Folk Wisdom: (How) do you get rid of someone who's making a play for your partner?

Wise Readers, Sometimes, an outsider—an old flame, a new flame, an unknown, an all-too-known—makes a play for our partner. Maybe it’s someone throwing themselves at our husband, or wife, or boyfriend, or girlfriend; maybe it’s subtler than that. But whether the interloper is representing as just-a-friend or an open threat, our Spidey Senses are suddenly on red alert…What do you think a person should do in that situation—if anything? Take the questionnaire—this week only:

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Q&A from "Exercise: This is a pubic service announcement"

Wise Readers, Do you have to lose weight to get the sexual and other benefits of a half-hour’s daily walk/workout? What’s a skinny fat person? Why does why we exercise—our motivator—matter, and how can you tap into the most effective motivator? And losing weight’s the easy part. How do you *keep* it off? Read on!

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Exercise: This is a pubic service announcement

Wise Readers, Swimsuits—they’re not what we’re discussing today. Nor are we broaching penis size, much as I enjoy saying ‘penis size’ and even though it’s the topic men ask me about the most. Instead, we’re discussing something vital to swimsuits and penises—and vaginas— everywhere…

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Q&A from “Junk Words: What the, above, he, and I say about your lovelife”

Dear Duana, You know, this sort of thing seems like palm-reading to me. Just sayin,’ trying to tell someone’s truthfulness via syntax is a gamble at best. It worries me that people already predisposed to superstition might cause their relationships real harm because they think they know enough about their significant others’ pronouns to tell if they’d been cheating or not….

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