Junk Words: What the, above, he, and I say about your lovelife

Wise Readers, today’s interview is with James W. Pennebaker, the scientist who’s spent decades studying how the ‘junk words’—filler words that aren’t nouns or verbs—tell us a great deal about differences between men and women, who’s likely to date whom, and even whether our partner may be lying to us. You know what to do~read on!

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Are You Just A Rebound Relationship? Q&A from "Dating the Not-Quite-Divorced"

Dear Duana, How can you tell if a guy is rebounding? I’m dating a man newly out of a relationship, not a marriage but a serious relationship, and I don’t know how to tell whether I’m a transitional relationship to him. Dear I.J., Certainty isn’t often available, in the lab or in life; science is about odds, but rarely can it specify what will happen in an individual’s scenario. BUT. Here are four ways you can get yourself closer to The Answer:

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Dating The Not-Quite-Divorced

Dear Duana,I’ve gotten involved with three women I met online in the last year, only to find they were all still married. I had asked each of them whether their divorce was final before meeting in person, and they all said yes! Do I need to see finalized legal papers before I can meet someone for coffee? Dan Dear Duana,I’m a single mom, and I’ve been set up with another single parent who is ‘not quite divorced’. Do you think he’s on the rebound? Should I suggest he contact me when the divorce is final? Should I have one coffee date and see what I think? Cindy

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Q&A from "Why Do Women Love Jerks?"

Wise Readers, can you learn to un-love Jerks—or at least to become open to Nice Guys? Do women outgrow Jerky charms? Why don’t young people know how to treat a partner? Is America becoming a post-marriage society—and what is that, anyway? Read on!

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Q&A from “Vibrator Dependence"

Wise Readers: Men chimed in from last week’s vibe column: Is there a certain-size vibrator that can make up for a small penis? Is there a wattage that will desensitize the clitoris and/or create vibrator dependence? What about a frequency of vibrator use? Do older women make better lovers—or at least tell their partners more about what turns them on? Read on!

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