Stolen Kisses: Why we don't want to be asked first, but you'd better ask our kids

Wise Readers, Last week, I asked you: Do you want to be asked before someone kisses you in a new relationship? How about an established relationship? What if the questions referred to your own teenage child? Why the heck would I want to know?! Because surprisingly, there’s not much scientific enquiry about kissing. Just a lot of assumptions. And your Survey responses, plus other relationship research, helps take what we know about Kissing—our own, our kids’—to the next level.

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"Run. Like Pantyhose in a Briar Patch": Reader Responses to ex-flame Pop Quiz

Dear Denise, The man you’ve recently begun dating told you he can’t take you anywhere his former girlfriend—whom he broke up with two years ago— might be, in case it hurts her feelings. And he doesn’t want to hear otherwise. This, he says, is just how it is. All of which gives you the feeling he’s still attached to his ex…What were our Wise Readers’ opinions on this? And what does the science say? Read on!

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Pop Quiz! What's the length of time you would avoid taking a new lover to places where a former flame might be?

What is the length of time you would avoid taking a new lover to places where a former flame might be? The Situation: A man has told his new girlfriend that he cannot take her anyplace his ex-gf might be present…to protect the ex’s feelings. How long ago did they break up? Two years.

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Pursuit, Part II: Whether and when to chase after Ms. Could Be Right

Wise Readers, is it time to give up? Or pursue with all you are? How does pursuit help men—not just women—know whether this is the right relationship? Here, some anguished men, and my attempts at answers. Any other suggestions? You know what to do: Read on!

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The Art Of Pursuit: How and why to chase Ms. Could Be Right

Dear Duana, Lanie and I had been out a few times when I saw her out with another guy….I have never felt this way about anyone before. If she’s at all interested, I want to make this work, but I can’t tell how she feels, and I don’t want to be a stalker. I’m confused and need your direction badly. Dear Kip, Sometimes, it seems like the difference between a stalker and a boyfriend is whether the woman wants the attention. You want to respect Lanie’s wishes; but is she giving you the go ahead, or the go away?

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