WHEN LOVE STINKS: Smell, The Pill, Marriage, and Online Dating

“I recently got off The Pill, and suddenly cannot tolerate the way my husband smells.” “I fell in love with someone online, and then when we met in person, he (not his cologne—he) smelled wrong.” Yes, scent is a deal-maker or deal-breaker for many women. So much so, “He just smells wrong” is a common marital therapy complaint from women, and smell trumps *all* other senses—including sight, sound and touch— in women’s decision to have sex with a particular guy. What’s wrong with these women—and maybe, you? As it happens, nothing…

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Plastic Surgery: Are you off your head?

Dear Duana,My measurements are 36-24-35…It’s not uncommon for male strangers to pay for the dinner I’m eating out with a friend, and I haven’t paid bus fare or opened a door in years. But my nose resembles a clown’s—round, like a rubber ball, and too large for my face….I know there is controversy about plastic surgery, but I don’t care about public debates. I just want an answer: Do you think the right nose job would help me attract Mr. Right? Grace

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Kiss-N-Tell? Part 2: What to say and how to say it when you've got a (sexual or other) Secret

Dear Duana, While I am way past having any Secrets 18 years post-wedding, I still have to wonder if there are any guidelines for the telling process. What kind of opening do you look for? By phone, by email, in person? And what if the newly acquired knowledge induces a screaming hairy cat fit in the other person? Dear Greystoke’s Mom, as it happens, the array of acceptable telling options may surprise you…

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Folk Wisdom: Is Her Straight Boyfriend Gay?

Dear Duana, My presumably straight boyfriend has not only browsed a ton of gay porn on the Internet, he’s also searched on many gay sex topics, focusing mostly on men + anal intercourse. What does it mean when a supposedly straight man watches gay porn…?

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Q&A from “Phishing With The (Inter) Net: Baiting the hook”

Wise Readers, Curb/curve appeal: Online, could it be advantageous to post pix that look somewhat less hot than The Real You? Why is the Pool deeper at paid-subscription than free dating sites? Why is it okay—desirable, even—for men to post photos of themselves with their kids…but works the opposite for women seeking men? And when and how should children be mentioned? Read on!

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