Stepmonsters: Setting boundaries and understanding motivations in a stepfamily (Stepmarriage Q&A)

Wise Readers, What if it’s the biodad who’s giving his kids an easier time? How can you save your marriage even if he won’t get on the same Team? Bioparents and biokids need alone-time—but why might stepdad/stepkid alone-time be dangerous? What if you know you don’t like the kid—should you get married anyway? Is there an evolved psychology behind Evil Stepmothering? How long does it take to make Steps feel like Family? And how many baggages can you carry? Read on!

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Separate Rooms, Separate Sex Lives? When snoring comes between you

Dear Duana,My husband has a serious snoring problem. Ear plugs for me and nasal strips for him don’t work, and the guest room is now mine….I get more sleep this way, but we have less sex and I feel less connected to him. Do you think it’s a bad thing for us to sleep apart? Dear Callie, If you could win a million dollars, or have guaranteed restful, energizing sleep every night for the rest of your life, which would you pick? If research is any guide, you’d be wise to select sleep. But that doesn’t mean sleeping apart is the best plan…

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Q&A from "Momma's Boys"

Dear Duana, I’m tired of being called a Momma’s Boy. Yes, I do live with my mother at age 35, but only because I had some setbacks and needed to return to school. Women won’t cut me any slack, though. Why can’t they see that I’m improving myself and besides that, I’m nice to my mom, so I’ll be nice to them, too?

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Momma's Boys: The good, bad, and ugly of loving a man who adores his mother

Dear Duana, What do you know about the man whose controlling mother offers approval only when he makes Mom #1….the man who lets his mother openly complain about his wife, tells Mom everything, and then takes Mom’s contrary advice at the expense of his wife’s input on all of it—money, career, parenting? How does he wean himself from her approval? And what happens if he doesn’t?

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Gay or Straight, what's the difference?

Dear Duana,I’ve been happily partnered with Michael for the past 17 years. Straights who know us are surprised by how long we’ve been together, or they want to know the secrets to our success. I’m not sure I know what we’re doing differently, if anything. Are there really differences between gay and straight long-term relationships? Dear Steven,Congratulations! As we’ll see, I’m not the only straight person who could learn a thing or two from you and your partner….

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