SOS: Save Our Sexlife (Or, Do-It-Yourself sex therapy when your man has erectile disorder he won't treat)

Dear Duana, for two years, Erik’s had erectile dysfunction he won’t discuss or treat. Eric says is he’s “fine” with how things are. I think it’s closer to truth to say he’s anxious and would rather shut down sexually than be crushed by trying something that doesn’t work. Is there a way to resume sex of *some* sort with the man I love and married?! Dear Cassandra,I hear your frustration, but I’m not a sex therapist. I could claim to be—in most of the USA, *anyone* can. Ye olde local psychological association can often direct you to someone reputable, but even then, therapy involves something Erik’s avoiding: talking. So you might have to treat Erik’s ED* under-the-radar, and here’s how:

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Absence & Illness: Making the heart grow fonder?

Dear Duana, Doctors told me I had terminal cancer at age 22, and my boyfriend bolted….Will anyone ever be willing to look beyond my diagnosis and love me? Or will the cancer scare everyone off?

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Q&A for "The Guy's Guide To Giving Great Gifts"

Wise Readers, Last week’s column about gift-giving really hit a nerve on Ye Olde Provider/Protector turf. What if you’re a guy who hates the calendar telling you when to buy? If you received a Bad Gift, why *isn’t* it a good strategy to just focus on the positives? Under what circumstances *don’t* women care so much about Gifts? When men give grudgingly, are they truly showing a lack of willingness that can add up to neglect in a marriage? And are some women just impossible to please? Read on!

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Q&A for "Getting Over Her: How to heal a broken heart"

Wise Readers, Heartbreak: Sooner or later, we all face it—but how? Why are men at a greater risk of death after losing a mate than women are? How can you help a friend through great grief—even the death of a spouse? Is therapy really necessary—or one way that works for some? And is this even a good topic for Love Science?! Read on!

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Q&A for “Affair-Proofing Your Marriage: Fidelity 2.0”

Wise Readers, If you want an affair-free union, being (and finding) a good person isn’t enough. But what are the differences between keeping a man versus a woman faithful? Do women have fewer, or more, affairs with age? And how do lifestyle and culture help or hinder affairs? Read on!

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