Dating The Not-Quite-Divorced

Dear Duana,I’ve gotten involved with three women I met online in the last year, only to find they were all still married. I had asked each of them whether their divorce was final before meeting in person, and they all said yes! Do I need to see finalized legal papers before I can meet someone for coffee? Dan Dear Duana,I’m a single mom, and I’ve been set up with another single parent who is ‘not quite divorced’. Do you think he’s on the rebound? Should I suggest he contact me when the divorce is final? Should I have one coffee date and see what I think? Cindy

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Conquering Confusion: He loves her? He loves her not.

Dear Duana, I’ve been dating Cal for half a year, during which he’s introduced me to his parents and taken me on weekends with his friends. He hasn’t called me his girlfriend, hasn’t said he loves me and hasn’t asked to be exclusive, but his friends said Cal talks about me more than anyone else he’s dated. We have great sex, but there’s never a mention of the future. I can’t stand the confusion anymore…. Dear Julie, There’s a gold standard for confusion, and it’s this: inconsistent words and actions. Be warned: Confusion is your cue to open your eyes and find out what’s going on, because *something* is wrong. But what? Here’s how to tell whether he Loves You…or Loves You Not…

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Masturbation + Marriage = ?

My fiancé and I haven’t had sex with each other, but I *masturbate every day. I’ve always felt guilt about it, and now I’m worried it will ruin my ability to please my future wife. How do I stop? Dear Albert, I’m touched by your concern for your future wife’s sexual happiness, and honored you’d let me lend a hand as you prepare for your nuptials. But perhaps instead of stopping your own masturbation, you could consider encouraging hers…

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Q&A from "Ignorance or Ignore-ance? How to prevent abuse"

Wise Readers,One woman’s intuition gave her panic attacks—and she blamed her gut, not her guy! WHY do women ignore what they know? How is abuse different in homosexual relationships? How do abusers groom and pick their targets? And how can you *really* prevent child sexual abuse? (Hint: If you’re relying on the school district or institutions to do this—think again.) Read on!

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Q&A from "When Men Batter Women"

Abusers: How do they fool cops, courts, counselors, and YOU? Why do women have such a tough time leaving? Should we be telling abused women to Get Out Now? Don’t women abuse men, too? And what do Love Science readers who have liberated themselves from abuse say?

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