Why “Better Than Nothings” Aren’t

Cora’s my best friend, and while I’ve fallen for her, she doesn’t return the feelings. I’ve tried taking breaks to rein in my feelings, but all that broke was my resolve. Is she keeping me from finding someone else? How do I get over her without losing the friendship? Dear Judson, while Cora’s enjoying a great friendship and can probably spend many years being Just Friends, you’re involved in something else altogether: The BTN…

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Q&A from "Masturbation + Marriage = ?"

Wise Readers, did we evolve to masturbate? Why are we so uptight about this, anyway? Can you become vibrator-dependent? How do we change our own feelings about The M-Word—and how do we tell our kids about it? And how much self-love is too much? Read on!

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Q&A from "Ignorance or Ignore-ance? How to prevent abuse"

Wise Readers,One woman’s intuition gave her panic attacks—and she blamed her gut, not her guy! WHY do women ignore what they know? How is abuse different in homosexual relationships? How do abusers groom and pick their targets? And how can you *really* prevent child sexual abuse? (Hint: If you’re relying on the school district or institutions to do this—think again.) Read on!

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Q&A from "How To Be Your Mate's Best Friend"

Wise Readers, what happens if your mate tells you Everything—and it’s a sexual turn-off? Does better Friendship actually *cause* passion to exit the building? Why do men resist asking their guy friends for help? Why do a lot of women object when men actually have friends? Read on!

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Q&A for "The Guy's Guide To Giving Great Gifts"

Wise Readers, Last week’s column about gift-giving really hit a nerve on Ye Olde Provider/Protector turf. What if you’re a guy who hates the calendar telling you when to buy? If you received a Bad Gift, why *isn’t* it a good strategy to just focus on the positives? Under what circumstances *don’t* women care so much about Gifts? When men give grudgingly, are they truly showing a lack of willingness that can add up to neglect in a marriage? And are some women just impossible to please? Read on!

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