Waiting For Sex: for how long?

Dear Duana, I bought the cultural messages that if you want to have sex you should…but now I think I’ve ruined a shot at love and marriage by treating sex casually. So, for the first time, I’m Waiting. My question is, how long should I wait before sex? Dear Rosemary, Scientifically, Waiting is such a huge long-term Win, it’s amazing we women ever fell for the Sexual part of the Revolution…

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Q&A from "Butterface"

Wise Readers, What should real-life Butterfaced-women do? How can women ever stop worrying about their looks? What’s ‘Good Enough’—for women and for men and for women with women and men with men? And how does all of this relate to the decline of dating on college campuses? Read on!

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Butterface

Wise Readers, Lately, I’ve encountered a lot of what’s called Butterface—as in, when a man’s date has “a fantastic body…but her face…” And it’s genuinely surprised me. Because I’ve always assumed that The Face trumps The Body. Right???

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Q&A from “Guess Who’s Paying For Dinner?”

Wise Readers, To pay, or not to pay: That was The Question. Should parents help their teen sons provide for dates? When/how should women chip in? And what’s with the female hypocrisy? Read on!

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Guess Who’s Paying For Dinner?

I’m a grad student, so when my friend Eva offered to set me up with Traci, I said I’d need to split the cost. But Eva won’t go ahead unless I pay the whole bill. I’m not opposed to paying sometimes, but it doesn’t seem fair, modern, or economically wise for me to do it now. What’s the answer? Dear Drew, If only the road to Sex were paved with good intentions, logic, and egalitarianism. Instead, it’s paved with good *attentions*—including spending money on the woman you want. Here’s why:

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