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How living apart can get you closer to commitment than living together.
Share Article Print Article Permalink tagged Cohabitation, Evolutionary Psychology, Male Female Differences Why living together doesn’t usually lead to longer, happier (or sometimes any) marriages—and who the exceptions are.
Wise Readers, if a man invites a woman to move in—or asks her to move in with hopes of an engagement a year off—, is that itself a sign he *isn’t* The One? Read on!
Share Article Print Article Permalink tagged Cohabitation, Commitment, Dating, Marriage Dear Duana, I think I’ve met The One. Aaron has asked me to move in with him, in another city, and said then he’ll propose in a year…I have a five-year-old daughter and a job, but for Mr. Right, we’ll move. I read your articles about cohabitation, though, and want to know what you’ve got against living together? Dear Anna,indeed, I’ve got something against living together. Because even though cohabitation is extremely common, research has something against it—for all but two sorts of couples:
Share Article Print Article Permalink tagged Cohabitation, Commitment, Male Female Differences, Marriage, Marriage Proposal Dear Duana, All I want for Christmas is to get married or at least engaged. Alex and I fell in love right when we met. We were that romantic couple who were always cuddling, kissing, staring in each other’s eyes, all gushy-mushy, and we are still very much in love. I was hard-to-get at first, but four years later we have a baby girl and still no ring! I don’t want a big ring, and I’ve said so, but he seems to take that as, “She wants a huge ring.” So honesty isn’t working and I think he’s waiting to get rich before he proposes! When I ask if he ever thinks of marrying me, he says yes with a big smile and embraces me, but I’m just wondering…WHEN? Am I being impatient? And what can I do?
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