How To Tell SHE’S Just Not That Into You (or, Captain Clueless’ Guide To Interested Women)

Dear Duana, My superhero name is Captain Clueless, because I never know when women do or don’t want me. It’s worth donning the cape to find the future Mrs. Clueless, but saving some pain and confusion along the way would be great. Are there are any reliable signs that a woman is or is not into me? Dear Scott, Heroes like you possess a vital superpower—bravery. Fortunately, you need not be reckless or blind in your bravery, because about 2/3rds of the time, Interested Women Make The First Move…and no, it’s not random!

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Q&A for "Getting Over Her: How to heal a broken heart"

Wise Readers, Heartbreak: Sooner or later, we all face it—but how? Why are men at a greater risk of death after losing a mate than women are? How can you help a friend through great grief—even the death of a spouse? Is therapy really necessary—or one way that works for some? And is this even a good topic for Love Science?! Read on!

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Q&A from “Becoming The High Status Woman”

Wise Readers, As you recall, Helen recently found out how to Get Her Status Back & Her Ring On —by Leaving. But what’s more manipulative—staying or going? Do women Leave to be cruel? Why does Leaving work so well? And is Leaving the only way to regain high status even after you’re married—or is there an easier way? Read on!

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Men as Success Objects: Or, why a man’s job is to have a (good) job

Dear Duana, I’m back with my former boyfriend, but an issue from our break-up remains: He works for his mom and does not seemed inspired to do more. Will this always bother me? Dear Janie, ITE (In This Economy), there are plenty of folks who are un- or under-employed through no fault of their own, despite strident efforts. But there’s no sugar-coating this: Male lack of ambition is a huge, universal and global female turn-off. Why that is so, and whether it has to ruin your relationship with Dave, are separate issues…

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Winning Him Back—with Jealousy?

After three happy years with my first love, I ruined things by turning clingy, depressed and negative when we moved apart for grad school. Not surprisingly, he eventually broke it off, and I actually begged him to return. We now live in the same city, know the same people, and often see one another at art galleries, the theater, etc. How do I ease the awkwardness between us, let him see I’m the woman he fell in love with, and win him back? Dear Cait, Oh, the I-cringe-at-my-own-past-desperate-behavior feeling! We’ve all been there. Yet precisely because you tried so hard to hang onto Dan back then, it’s imperative that you do *nothing* to ease the tension now. In fact, I’d suggest increasing the awkwardness…

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