Q&A from “Solving Your Unsolvable Problems: What happy couples know”

Wise Readers, Happy couples: What have they got that others haven’t? Where’s the fine line between Irreconcilable Differences and the “brand of crazy” you can live with? And how did our own happy couples find the path to Being Happy Anyway? Read on!

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Q&A from “WHEN OPPOSITES ATTRACT: Happily or Crabbily Ever After?”

Wise Readers, If opposites attract, why is similarity so much easier? And what can be done to convince your head *and* heart that his/her personality isn’t…personal? How accurate are we at discerning our own personality? Would others know our type? What about introverts with extroverts, or worriers with calm people—how does that work? And…what if your Opposite is just plain mean and disrespectful to you? Read on! Cheers, Duana

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WHEN OPPOSITES ATTRACT: Happily or Crabbily Ever After?

Dear Duana,I love my husband, but I’m demonstrative and affectionate and affirming, and Sean…isn’t. Is there any research about opposites attracting, or whether complementary personalities can cause more problems than they solve? Dear Nina, Sounds like you’ve got a classic Gap going on—where one person prefers soul-searching intimacy, and the other prefers that when he said he loves you (at your wedding), that should stand for the Remainder Of Time. Common in male-female relationships, I suspect the Gap is often based in a specific personality pairing you and Sean may have…

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The Fisher Personality Test: Do Opposites Attract?

Wise Readers, In response to your many queries, we’ll soon be addressing whether and when *opposites* might attract…and whether they can remain together happily as a complementary pair where each completes the other—or whether the dishes suffer over-much in a union where there’s more friction than function. Which means it’s time to find out what your personality type is—and whether you are now, or have ever been with, someone whose personality differs substantively from your own…

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Q&A from “Winning Him Back—with Jealousy?”

Our recent column about The Green-Eyed Monster gave way to strategic, ethical, and empirical discussion. Should women reveal it to their friend if using that friend to make someone else jealous? What are the four Warning Signs that jealousy should *not* be used—and how can jealousy be leveraged with emotional intelligence? Why don’t women just tell the truth when they want someone? What if you’re the man who was caught in the cross-hairs and lived to resent it; are women merely toying with you? Read on!

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