Affair-Proofing Your Marriage: Fidelity 2.0

Dear Duana, I got a tad obsessed with a “Guy” at work—then told my husband and quit interacting with Guy. My girlfriends think telling my spouse was mean, ending the friendship was unnecessary, and that my character and my happy marriage would have prevented anything “happening”. I think they’re naive. How do you affair-proof a marriage?

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Keeping Him Faithful 1.0: Five guys to watch (out) for

Dear Duana, I’ve been serially cheated-on, even when relationships went well. Before I abandon all hope, is there any way to find and keep a man who’s monogamous and emotionally invested in me—and me only? Dear Belinda, although happy relationships don’t guarantee fidelity, most men are faithful. So what’s the source of your unusually bad luck? I suspect it has something to do with repeatedly saying Yes to cheating’s 5 Usual Suspects:

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Butterface

Wise Readers, Lately, I’ve encountered a lot of what’s called Butterface—as in, when a man’s date has “a fantastic body…but her face…” And it’s genuinely surprised me. Because I’ve always assumed that The Face trumps The Body. Right???

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Q&A from “How To Forgive An Affair (He Won’t Admit)”

Why is affair betrayal a Much Bigger Deal to most of us than other betrayals? Don’t cheaters cheat again? What happens when parents tell kids about their affair(s)? And why doesn’t forgiving mean forgetting? Read on!

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How To Forgive An Affair (He Won’t Admit)

My husband admits he endangered our marriage, but insists he never had an affair—his two-year secret sweetie was “just a good friend”! Why is the truth so hard for him to tell? And (how) can I forgive him—for my sanity and our unity and our family? Dear Katherine, People don’t jeopardize their life’s foundation for “just a good friend”…yet forgiveness is *the norm* even among the betrayed spouses of sex addicts…

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