eHarmony: Using the Friends & Family Plan to find love online

Dear Duana, My brother Fred’s alcoholic ex abandoned him and his sons three years ago. Now, he’d like to find The One, but obviously he won’t look in bars, and he lacks time to sort through endless profiles. So I suggested letting me screen women’s profiles online, and then babysitting while he meets the best of the best in person. ??? Dear Betsy, Matchmaking is a growth industry, and using the Friends & Family Plan may be mate shopping’s Safe(er)Way, compared to cultural Do It Yourself norms. Here’s how—where—and why…

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Q&A from “Men As Success Objects”, “Women As Sex Objects”

Wise Readers, Are men—not just women—also seeking a walking wallet? Are they really that adamant about youth-seeking? What options might women have for maintaining Youth & Beauty once the youth part is gone? And does planning for a life alone mean that you’ll really be alone? Read on!

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Q&A from “When Dad Stays Home: Ancient feelings, modern world”

Wise Philosophers, Per our home-making man, most of you rose to Albert’s defense as doing a valuable, perhaps the most valuable, job by raising successful, happy kids. Then, things took a philosophical turn: How do stay-at-home roles work when there are two moms—or two dads? What’s the role of science in values—and values in science? Of our laws on our values? Should homemaking be an at-your-own-risk endeavor? Are humans evolving to become “tamer”? And does wanting the traditional path make you “less evolved”? Read on…

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When Dad Stays Home: Ancient feelings, modern world

Dear Duana, My wife is an outstanding breadwinner, so by mutual consent I’ve been the stay-home parent to our four children. But a decade + of diaper-and-daycare duty has undermined my self-esteem. Although Victoria appreciates the career sacrifices I’ve made to raise the kids, I can see the disappointment in her eyes as she explains to her well-heeled associates what it is I don’t do for a living….

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Men as Success Objects: Or, why a man’s job is to have a (good) job

Dear Duana, I’m back with my former boyfriend, but an issue from our break-up remains: He works for his mom and does not seemed inspired to do more. Will this always bother me? Dear Janie, ITE (In This Economy), there are plenty of folks who are un- or under-employed through no fault of their own, despite strident efforts. But there’s no sugar-coating this: Male lack of ambition is a huge, universal and global female turn-off. Why that is so, and whether it has to ruin your relationship with Dave, are separate issues…

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