Q&A for "Save Our Sexlife (DIY sex therapy when your guy has ED he won't treat)"

Wise Readers, Going Stealth to treat a lover’s ED (when he won’t do it himself) spawned many personal revelations and quite the discussion. What are the many —sometime surprising— causes ED? If it’s this common, should we even call it “erectile *disorder*”? And can you screw up recovery by rushing the process? Read on!

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SOS: Save Our Sexlife (Or, Do-It-Yourself sex therapy when your man has erectile disorder he won't treat)

Dear Duana, for two years, Erik’s had erectile dysfunction he won’t discuss or treat. Eric says is he’s “fine” with how things are. I think it’s closer to truth to say he’s anxious and would rather shut down sexually than be crushed by trying something that doesn’t work. Is there a way to resume sex of *some* sort with the man I love and married?! Dear Cassandra,I hear your frustration, but I’m not a sex therapist. I could claim to be—in most of the USA, *anyone* can. Ye olde local psychological association can often direct you to someone reputable, but even then, therapy involves something Erik’s avoiding: talking. So you might have to treat Erik’s ED* under-the-radar, and here’s how:

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Q&A for "How To Tell SHE'S Just Not That Into You (or, Captain Clueless' Guide To Interested Women)"

Wise Readers, although men wrote in thanks for insight regarding women’s part in the human mating dance, questions arose: Do guys usually overestimate women’s interest—or underestimate it (and why?)? When are guys turned off (and on) if women make the first move? Is the human courtship ritual (THCR) a silly game—or is there some value to it? And does *anyone* like to be left hanging when It’s Over? Read on!

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Q&A for “Keeping Him Faithful 1.0: Five guys to watch (out) for”

Wise Readers, The first step in *keeping* him faithful is *finding* a him who wants to be true to begin with—and who lacks the Opportunity, History & Experience to cheat. But what if he’s got a History—and claims to have reformed? Why *not* use the genetic test for men’s fidelity? Is there a fidelity test to use on women? And isn’t being so logical kind of killing love’s buzz? Read on!

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Waiting For Sex: for how long?

Dear Duana, I bought the cultural messages that if you want to have sex you should…but now I think I’ve ruined a shot at love and marriage by treating sex casually. So, for the first time, I’m Waiting. My question is, how long should I wait before sex? Dear Rosemary, Scientifically, Waiting is such a huge long-term Win, it’s amazing we women ever fell for the Sexual part of the Revolution…

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