How To Forgive An Affair (He Won’t Admit)

My husband admits he endangered our marriage, but insists he never had an affair—his two-year secret sweetie was “just a good friend”! Why is the truth so hard for him to tell? And (how) can I forgive him—for my sanity and our unity and our family? Dear Katherine, People don’t jeopardize their life’s foundation for “just a good friend”…yet forgiveness is *the norm* even among the betrayed spouses of sex addicts…

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Q&A from “Becoming The High Status Woman”

Wise Readers, As you recall, Helen recently found out how to Get Her Status Back & Her Ring On —by Leaving. But what’s more manipulative—staying or going? Do women Leave to be cruel? Why does Leaving work so well? And is Leaving the only way to regain high status even after you’re married—or is there an easier way? Read on!

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Becoming The High Status Woman: Or, how Helen got her status back & her ring on

Dear Duana, I knew better than to sleep with my boyfriend right away, but I did. I promised myself I would never live with another man unless we were married, but Troy and I were talking marriage, so I moved in. Now –four years later!—no ring is in sight. So how do I become that high status woman now? Is it even possible? (One month later…) Dear Helen Of High Status, In four weeks, you achieved with resolve and bravery what four years of devotion did not…

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Q&A from “Momma’s Boys: The good, bad and ugly of loving a man who adores his mother”

Wise Readers, Our recent column about men who love mom (too) much inspired many fascinating queries. Why can women get away with being Momma’s (or Daddy’s) *Girls*? Why might gay men get away with being uber-close to Mom? What if you found out you’re insecurely attached—can anything be done? And what if *you’re* the monster-in-law? Read on!

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Momma’s Boys: The good, bad and ugly of loving a guy who adores his mother

Dear Duana, What do you know about the man who tells Mom everything, and then takes Mom’s contrary advice at the expense of his wife’s input on all of it—money, career, parenting? How does he wean himself from her approval? And what happens if he doesn’t? Dear Sarah,Ever notice the clinging, hand-holding, full-frontal-hugging, endless-kissing, crying-at-partings indicative of…a one-year-old and his mother? Our first passionate relationship is usually with Mom and/or Dad. And if it goes well, it forms the roadmap to Happily Ever After with our eventual mate. Still, there’s a biiiig difference between being Momma’s Boy and Momma’s Man…

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